Preparing for Marriage


Most couples spend more time and energy preparing for their wedding than they do their marriage, but research consistently shows that there is a direct correlation between the amount of premarital counseling a couple receives and their marital happiness and stability after the wedding. Our goal is to give you the insights and practical wisdom that can lead to a life-long marriage with real oneness and joy. The audio lessons and PDF’s are designed to help you think through the most important topics and build a foundation for your journey together.


01 What Your Marriage Is All About: Oneness That Brings You Joy And Changes The World
02 Family Matters: Leaving The Old, Starting The New, And Navigating The Differences
03 How To Be Great Communicators
04 Conflict Is Inevitable, Hurting Each Other Is Not
05 Women And Men: Understanding The Differences And The Dance
06 You're Different, Really Different: Accepting And Enjoying Your Personality Differences
07 Learning To Forgive, Learning To Apologize
08 Physical Oneness: How to Have a Good Sex Life
09 Keys To A Good First Year: Having A Plan For Your Money, Dividing Up The Chores Of Daily Life



When you enroll in this course, you receive access to download the audio lesson, teaching outlines with prompts for reflection, discussion and application as well as further resources. For the best learning experience we recommend that you listen to the audio lesson at least once individually and once together. We also suggest that you answer the questions individually and then share the answers with each other and discuss.


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“Joe is a wealth of wisdom and knowledge. We did our premarital counseling with him and it gave us wonderful talking points that helped frame our perspectives going into marriage. We are listening to this online course as a refresher as we are halfway through our first year of marriage! Joe does a great job of explaining the cultural contexts that have shaped societies views on marriage and helps give us a biblical lens through which we can understand our commitment (covenants!) to each other.”
Jonathan and Lindsay Brown

“The Preparing for Marriage course has opened up our eyes to areas in our relationship that we wanted to address. This is our second marriage and we both agreed that we wanted to do things differently this time around. We wanted to make every effort to strengthen our relationship before we walked down that aisle. Joe gave us the vital tools to help both of us communicate with each other in a productive way. This course gave us the ability to address our past, our fears, our doubts, our hopes, our goals, our dreams, our expectations, and so much more. Joe/Respero gave us the tools to have a Christ centered marriage. We are forever grateful!”
Crystal and Damien


Understanding Yourself

Discover the root of why we do what we do and develop better strategies for being a great lover--of ourselves and others.

Understanding Relationships

Understand what makes relationships strong and great, and what destroys them. Grow in your ability to love and enjoy the important people in your life.


Understand codependency, why people struggle with it so much, and how to help people identify their wrong beliefs and establish new ways of thinking and loving.

“I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” - Brene Brown

“We must learn that the world is a place of abundance, not scarcity. The mantra of “not enough” becomes a kind of default setting for our thinking about everything, from the cash in our pocket to the people we love or the value of our own lives. It becomes the reason we can’t have what we want or be who we want to be. But it’s not true!” - Lynn Twist

“Redemption does not mean that God meets our needs and then our souls stop longing. No, redemption does not eradicate desperation. Instead, redemption allows us to surrender. And God doesn't want something from us. He wants us.” - Sharon Hersh

“We should not ask to do great things for God, but to do small things with great love.” - Mother Theresa
“Do you know what it’s like to be rested? Truly rested? This is what I’m finding, every day, every hour: there is a way of living that is so sweet, so full, so whole and beautiful you’ll never want to go back once you’ve tasted it.” - Shauna Niequist
“Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.” - Brene Brown
“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” - Brene Brown
“We run from grief because loss scares us, yet our hearts reach toward grief because the broken parts want to mend.” - Brene Brown
"We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions." - Brene Brown
“Our world desperately needs wise, skillful practitioners of the cure of souls.” - Dallas Willard
“A shepherd counselor is not a doctor whose primary task is to take away pain…the main task of the shepherd counselor is to prevent people from suffering for the wrong reasons.” - Henri Nouwen
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.” - Philo
“The deepest convictions of our heart are formed by stories and reside there in the images and emotions of story…..Life is not a list of propositions, it is a series of dramatic scenes.” - Brent Curtis
“Here is something very simple about relationships….Nobody will listen to you unless they sense that you like them.” - Donald Miller
“Jesus came to announce to us that an identity based on success, popularity, and power is a false identity—an illusion! Loudly and clearly he says: ‘You are not what the world makes you; but you are children of God.’ “ - Henri Nouwen
“When we accept our complete belovedness, we stop judging ourselves and other people; as a result, other people begin to feel safe with us.” - Henri Nouwen
“Human beings who give themselves to relational greatness—who have friends they laugh with, cry with, learn with, fight with, dance with, live and love and grow old and die with—these are the human beings who lead magnificent lives.” - John Ortberg
“The litmus test of spirituality is not the absence of conflict; conflict will not disappear until we die. The litmus test is how we handle it. Conflict is inevitable; resentment is not.” - John Ortberg
“There are few joys in life like being wanted, chosen, embraced. There are few pains like being excluded, rejected, left out. At the core of of Christian community is the choice between exclusion and embrace.” - Miroslav Wolf



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